What is your opinion of couples counseling...?

For a couple who has only been together for 7 months?





We are not married, and are both 30 years old.





We both love each other and see a very promising future together, but have always had problems with communication and opening up. When arguments arise, they get out of control. We have decided to try couples therapy.





Do you think this is premature and silly? Or honest and positive?What is your opinion of couples counseling...?
I think if you both love each other as you say you do and both want a future together then it'll be great to do.





As far as others on here who said if you can't communicate with each other then just forget it...maybe they just haven't been in a serious relationship.





No matter if it's 7 mos. or 7 years, if you really love this person and vice versa then it's worth every bit of effort you've got to give. It's good sometimes to get a third person's view on something (not family or a friend).





If later down the road you all figure out that it's not working then at least at that point you'll know you two tried all you could to make it work and build communication. I think it's great that you two are doing this, it shows how much you both want it to work!!!





Best wishes!What is your opinion of couples counseling...?
I guess if you feel you need it, then its good.





I don't think my husband and I would ever resort to couples counseling because we don't believe in paying someone to do what we could do ourselves. Counseling don't fix the problems, the actions taken while at counseling does. We have no problem conveying our thoughts with each other, even if the other person doesn't like it. So, to me, counseling seems best for people who aren't quite able to express themselves, either that person is unable to verbalize what they're feeling or the other person being unable to interpret what the other is saying.





So, while I don't think it's either premature or silly or honest or positive, it's not for us. If you're wondering if you guys are talking counseling too soon, I don't at all think so. In fact, I think that you guys should've done that before getting married.
I don't believe in a third party budding in. When you both decided to pay attention to each other, make love for the first time, hug passionately, etc...you did not need a counselor, why should you now?





You can see a promising future together, but not a happy one. Don't insist if you both cannot work out your differences by yourselves.
I think that if you are asking about couples counseling after only seven months, you may as well throw in the towel. It will probably only get worse. There is definitely nothing wrong with couples counseling. It has probably saved a lot of marriages and is the reason that it is available to couples.
I think counseling is a great way to learn to correctly communicate in a marriage, which is the key not sex as many say. Sex is only the indicator of how your marriage is doing. When you do decide make sure you find a counselor with your same beliefs because this can seriously become a problem. Don't fret it its a great learning experience for a relationship and for yourself.
WEll, you said you weren't married so I'm a little confused as to why your asking that question in this section. Therapy is only as good as the two people receiving it. It's only advise that you can either leave or take.
I think it could be a good idea for you, but you may find out that the person you love may be someone that you can't live with, but it's also better to find that out before you get married.
I think it's positive if it's not one dragging the other there. If there are a few specific communication issues you have and you agree on working on them then it might be a glorious thing. All the best.
If you've only been together for seven months and already need counseling, don't waste your time getting married. It probably wouldn't last through the honeymoon.
If you both agree that it would be worthwhile chances are you don't need it. But if one of you fights it then you need it.
If you think this relationship has 'long-term' potential it can be a positive thing.
It will be a waste of time.


If you can not understand each other and communicate now, it will only get worse after you are marries.
Honest and positive! It means that both of you want to work on your relationship from the beginning and make it work. good luck
If ur struggling den go to counseling
Erm... yeah do it. What the hell?


Maybe you will both think it was the stupidest thing ever and bond over it if nothing else. (Spend more time together!)





If there's no spark.. maybe decide to both date other people. If there's a spark but you are having trouble being happy together, get the counseling.





No one gets ';the talk'; anymore about what it takes to make marriage work nor what the ';proper'; way to advance a relationship is. Maybe you kinda-sorta know what you ought to be doing but an emotion-based counseling will do you wonders and prevent years of heartache and trial-and-error figuring out things that we, as a race, have known for thousands of years.





If they focus on communication or God, fire them and find another one. Talking with each other tends to be a very important emotional need of women; but it's often not even the most important one for them! Couples very very good at communication just articulate what they hate about each other better.


God-based counseling probably isn't going to work for non-religious people and although there is great wisdom to be found there, teasing it out and understanding it in context of your life is a non-trivial undertaking.





If you are cohabitating then you have entered a defacto marriage, but done so without the commitment and possibly without the intent to fully take care of each other. This has a tendency to build-up very bad habits between you two that do not change (but should) once/if you are married.





As an example, you probably do not think you should have a strong expectation for sex (which is the case in marriage). Because of the cohabitation prior to marriage you might carry that inward-suppression with you to an extreme determent to your marriage. Whether its sex or something else, whenever that expectation is not met you build up a little more resentment, over %26amp; over until you are angry (or sad or both) almost all the time. Then the fights start.





Also, in a sort of desperation to make the other people like you more, people often will try to do or want whatever the other person wants. These are the ';white lies'; people talk about; they might be ok at first, but at the relationship advances they have to stop. You have to be able to be completely honest with each other.