What make(s) couples incompatible with each other? If couples face such problems then what should they do?

Do you agree that incompatibility is a big problem in married life? I think in some cases this could be disastrous. Here I am just trying to see what others think about this issue and possible solutions.What make(s) couples incompatible with each other? If couples face such problems then what should they do?
you gotta have the same passion for the principal things, like how to rear up your kids, religion, political standing, etc, and you should complement each other's lackings/shortcomingsWhat make(s) couples incompatible with each other? If couples face such problems then what should they do?
love, care, understand each other, give and take, compromise. if couples follow this then many issues and divorcee can be avoided, and yes you are right if couples don't understand then it can be disaster. my 2nd marriage is on verge of ending due to stubborn and selfish wife. it's two kids that's holding us for now. my and my kids future is in gods' hand now. my wife's future is in her sister and her BIL hand.
Hello dear,





Not just couples, but each and every person is different and each and every person is incompatible with others. It's just this incompatibility is less with one and more with some one else.


If you feel that you and your wife are incompatible with each other it's just that your ideas are different on a larger number of issues as compaired to some couples and I am very sure that they are less in comparison to thousand's of couples across India. It's not a problem it's just a part of life.


You see my dear that if you live together then the formality and a bit space between any two persons vanishes with time and they start taking each other as a part of themelves and expect that the other person understands a few basic things and they don't have to be told again and again.


The important thing is that when you are arguing with or are about to argue with each other think one thing that the person in front of you is the one you love and is not your enemy. You can't think properly with a angry mind so cool down think and then ack, It's always to be late than sorry later on. rest is up to you.......
True story of my friend.


He was an Indian from India


Girl was also from India.


Arranged marriage. His parents liked the girls family and all was set.


He did not know that 3 years later he would be moving overseas with her. For the first time they were living together. Away from family influence.





This is what he said to me:





Had I even an ounce of clue that I would be moving overseas, I would have made an effort to get to know the girl alot better.


Cos, I realise that it is the female I have to live with now..not her family!!!





Simple sentence but i found it very profound.





To answer your question..for this couple there are incmpaitable. He will not divorce her. SO he will spend the rest of his life just like that..
Everyone is compatible in one way or another. It's just a matter of how happy you will be with that person.


Yes, I agree it's a big problem.
After 15 years of marriage my 16 year old son recently asked me Why we got divorced. For us incompatability was the wrong word.I told him the old clique'; We just grew apart';.I think thats whats true with most couples.We had a great friendship %26amp; relationship before we got married but somehow afterwords all that changed for me.We lost touch with each other %26amp; I think thats the key.As far as help we tried everything.When i look at fault i look on my side of the street %26amp; to be honest?, looking back? i should have put my whole heart %26amp; soul into it.For me now unconditional love is the way to go!!And thats what i try to teach my kids.Thx hope this helps %26amp; goodluck.Your friendly neighborhood Tazman.
Incompatibility happens in each and every relationship...





When i feel myself dejected on various issues,i just sit and speak for myself ';i am not err-free,so is he...so lets just go hand in hand so that our mistakes are erased by each other';..trust me,it helps me a lot to this day.





Remember nobody is perfect..everybody has their own way of loving,caring speaking etc etc..try to accept people the way they are..dn't try to change them...everybody is reluctant to change..





Take things lightly..afterall,its a small incompatibility...many in this world suffer from much more bigger problmes..just be glad that we all have this much happiness..





good luck
I have an old school philosophy I guess because I believe that in theory that everyone is compatible in some way or another. Its just whether or not the levels are higher or lower on the scale.





Just think of it in terms of if there were two people left on a desert island for a substantial amount of time, its more than likely that some relationships would start... (in theory).





In married life the biggest problem is COMMUINICATION. I mean seriously if both parties communicated their needs and wants things would probably run more smoothly in most marriages. The reality is that couples do face these problems because people grow up, they change, they become products of their environment etc.





I think the classic cliche method is therapy. I also think its effective in some cases. Relationships only become doomed when one of more parties is not devoted entirely to the progress of the relationship. As long as couples have the desire to make it work and dont give up then there is hope.