All couples go into a marriage saying, it could never happen to them but it does, why?

People always say, everything's perfect, they'll live happily ever after but according to US stats, about 50% get divorced. So why is everyone so confident? And why is that 1 in 2 get divorced?All couples go into a marriage saying, it could never happen to them but it does, why?
People don't take marriage as seriously these days.





Somewhere in the last 20-30 years, marriage became a goal point of sorts. Men and women started moving toward it like this thing they're just supposed to do. When you look at marriage that way, it's not going to stick. Marriage shouldn't be ';We've been together a while, it's time to make it official'; it should be ';I'm NEVER going to want another person, ever.'; If that's not your motive, and you haven't been together at LEAST a couple years... You probably aren't ready for that commitment.





We, as a society, encourage young marriage. Many couples get married in their early twenties. If you look through those statistics, they have a failure rate of near 100%. It doesn't work, but we encourage it. Somewhere along the lines we decided to encourage something that would fail... Brilliant. Go America! lol.





But really, it's because people don't care as much about marriage anymore. It's unfortunate, but it's true. There are some valid reasons for divorce, and I feel that I had a very strong one myself; but most folks just don't take it seriously and it causes problems down the road.





It's pretty sad, actually.All couples go into a marriage saying, it could never happen to them but it does, why?
Because at the beginning of a relationship it is exciting and new and more about lust and infatuation.





Marriage takes effort and work especially as the people involved change, grow, and mature.





And, stuff happens, like financial problems, children come along, there can be medical issues, etc. Stress is added and you either learn to work together through the stress or you tear each other apart because of it.
because these people are very naive going into this LIFELONG commitment known as marriage. Me and my husband got married young, i was only 22 and he was 21 ((no kids...we got married because we're in love)) and let me be the first to tell you its the hardest thing that we've ever gone through, and there we're times when we wanted to throw in the towel but marriage is a learning process and it should be learned together. Looking back on everything we've been through as husband and wife i couldn't imagine my life with anyone else.
That's simple, no one knows the future so why should you believe you will not have problems, ofcourse everyone has problems but they endure to be succesful. Another point is that we are humans, no one knows eachother perfectly well but untill you live together to know each other more and you would surely find something you don't like. So that's it.
Because people are not really prepared for a long term relationship or marriage.


While in love, they just believe things will work out. In the mean time there are a lot irritating little habits most men and women have. In addition, they both want certain things from a relationship, and these are not necessarily the same.


Sometimes the girl believes she can change the man after they are married. One of my Laws of Relationships says:


A Man Does Not Change for the Better After Marriage!


Relationships are hard work, and one must be prepared for it and know what to expect.


That is what my book is all about.
because people do change, you may fall head over heels with someone, and at that point in your life, you know with all your being that you two were meant to be together, Then as life goes on you change, and that person changes as well, you are not the person you where when you got married, that is when either divorce or cheating sets in. I personally think people should wait to get married, maybe late thirties, early forties, sometimes by that point you have lived, and kind of know who you really are and what you want. just my opinion. take care.
The pursuit of happiness. They do the same thing with land and cars. Once it gets old, something looks better, then it will be time to trade up and move on. Not that it brings happiness, but gratification, not unlike when you drive off the lot in the new car. Then a few months go by and the reality sets in, you paid a lot of money and/or you will be making payments for a long time.
People change over time and a lot of times what was once a good match isn't anymore. People only know how they feel right now, they don't know how they'll feel tomorrow.
Because some people are unwilling to try. It just becomes easier to walk away then to put in any effort.
because when reality hits marriage aint like tv or da movies it hard esp te first couple of years if theres no patience , love or intimicy or trust thats it ! we cry out divorce!!
because people are retards. next question.